I wish all closeted LGBTQ+ people a very happy pride month.
love is choosing who gets to bother you
Once they’re officially family, the Cain instinct kicks in.
imagine you are fifteen years old taking your little sister to the grocery store because your dad is busy and your grandmother is old and you need food. as you turn a corner you accidentally ram your shopping cart into God with a capital G and he promises to show you the world you’ve never seen from inside the ten square miles of your hometown in exchange for your company. you hate the risk but your demigod sister has untapped potential and an unrelenting determination to get ghost, so you follow God with a capital G through heaven and hell and back. God with a capital G is twelve and wiser than even your grandmother and treats everything like a game and he’s your brother now and suddenly you would (and have and will) kill and die for him. your first love becomes a different god and you add her name to the list of things (your childhood, your vulnerability, your parents, your safety) you don’t have the time to grieve right now (or ever) and you become a man on foreign soil and your dad isn’t there to see it. you are fifteen and God with a capital G’s best friend and your little sister– sisters, now– are the most powerful demigods on the planet and you are the only one keeping three divine tweens focused on saving the world and you are still not allowed to say fuck.
i’m not proud of how long it took me to figure out that this was talking about ATLA
I’ve cracked the code. Next time you correct someone on your pronouns and they respond with that generally positive but slightly defensive vibe like “oh sorry, I’m new to this so it’ll take me a while” just hit em with one of these:
“No worries, I’m practicing at reminding people and you seem like a safe person to practice with”
Boom. Took the perceived blame off their shoulders and made the connection for them that being corrected = being trusted. Rinse and repeat. It’s also not a lie, correcting people on my pronouns is stressful and personally I really am super cautious about it
I figure some angry people will jump into the notes on this one so let me clarify: trans people do not have to be nice or coddle cis feelings. Some of us like living low-conflict lives though, so get off our dicks about it
Cis people if you would like to avoid having this interaction in the first place, try “thank you for correcting me”
“[correction]”
“oh right, thanks, [carries on whatever they were saying but with the correct pronouns this time]”
^That is the best way to handle it. Cis folks take notes.
That said, I deeply appreciate having a hack for if I correct someone irl and they make a thing out of it, so thank you OP you are a treasure for sharing this Cis Hack.
[20k celebration gift] for @stars-bean: username inspired gifset
⭐ S T A R G A Z I N G ⭐
Men in Black (1997), dir. Barry Sonnenfeld
Shrek (2001), dir. Andrew Adamson
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004), dir. Michel Gondry
A Walk to Remember (2002), dir. Adam Shankman
The Lion King (1994), dir. Roger Allers and Rob Minkoff
A Beautiful Mind (2001), dir. Ron Howard
Doctor Who, Vincent and the Doctor (2010), dir. Jonny Campbell
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